Matthew Hussey
About Matthew Hussey
Matthew Hussey is a two-time New York Times bestselling author, including the international bestseller Love Life. He is a speaker and coach specializing in confidence and relational intelligence.
His YouTube channel is number one in the world for love life and relational guidance, with over half a billion views. He writes a weekly newsletter for 500,000 people, and hosts the Love Life With Matthew Hussey podcast.
Hussey provides monthly coaching to the members of his private Love Life community and has been holding the annual Matthew Hussey Retreat for the last 18 years. Over two decades, his proven approach has inspired millions through authentic, insightful, and practical advice that not only enables them to find loving relationships, but also helps them feel confident and in control of their own happiness.
He lives in Los Angeles with his wife, Audrey Hussey.
Introduction to Matthew’s Mental Health Keynotes
Life is hard. We contend with past trauma, heartbreak, health, death, loneliness, financial uncertainty, addiction, global uncertainty, betrayals, and painfully complicated relationships . . . to name a few of life’s challenges.
But in spite of all of these external difficulties, it can feel like the greatest nemeses we have to contend with are our own emotions, our behavioral patterns, and our inner voice.
These three things can combine to make us feel hopeless, stuck, and incapable of change.
In this series of keynotes, Matthew demonstrates practically that we have more control over these things than we think, no matter our age, and that it is never too late to create a life we love that makes sense of the struggles we’ve endured.
Keynote #1: The Emotional Tools
Our emotions determine the quality of our life, in all seasons. So whether we’re in good times right now, or the hardest time of our lives, the quickest way back to happiness is by learning to take control of our emotions.
In the very worst of times, learning how to regulate our emotions is an essential survival tool. Dr. Judith L. Herman refers to this stage as getting to “Safety,” the first step necessary in recovery for trauma survivors. But we needn’t be a survivor of trauma to benefit from learning how to get back to safety in our minds.
The audience will learn:
- Eight essential tools for shifting negative emotions in the moment, and how to use their emotions to their advantage instead of having their emotions work against them.
- Their emotional patterns, how to manage pain in the most difficult of times, how to proactively tap into the positive emotions they want to feel on a regular basis, and how to develop their very own “Trigger Action Plan” for the times when a full-body takeover spirals out of control.
- The difference between “Elephant” language and “Rider” language in talking to our brains.
- How to be “happy enough,” even in the darkest times.
- How to create an “Emotional User Manual” they can refer back to anytime they need to regain control of their emotional state.
This talk is designed to get audiences back to a feeling of safety in their own bodies, a newfound sense of control over their own minds, and an antidote to a feeling of disconnection in their everyday lives.
Keynote #2: Breaking the Patterns of a Lifetime
What we have been able to accomplish in life so far is not a reflection of our worth or our capabilities . . . it is a reflection of our patterns.
While our emotions may control our experience of the different seasons of life, our behavioral patterns influence the seasons themselves.
Better patterns create better seasons—seasons of new love, renewed career opportunities, new meaning, new friendships, new adventures.
Many of us live with the belief that we cannot change the patterns that have governed our lives so far; we lose hope that we can change the things we do to sabotage ourselves. In many cases, we live with what we think of as a “fatal flaw” that always seems to betray us whenever life starts going well.
The audience will learn:
- That there are ways to shift even their long-entrenched patterns, and that in doing so, they can shift the entire trajectory of their lives.
- How to break these patterns to stop a “fatal flaw” from holding them back from what they are capable of, and break through to new results they haven’t experienced before.
- That their patterns are not a reflection of their deficiencies, but normal human adaptations that can be healed in the context of new situations and new relationships.
- That new beliefs about their own capabilities and worth will derive not only from new action, but new boundaries.
- That change is realistic, no matter how long they’ve been stuck in the old ways.
- How curiosity is a transformative trait in healing, and a gateway to new reference points and beliefs about what is possible.
Keynote #3: Core Confidence
We all have an inner critic. For many of us, it is the voice we know best, incessantly criticizing us, shaming us, and comparing the ways we do not match up to others.
This voice is a reflection of the relationship we have with ourselves.
“Core Confidence” is what is built when we change this relationship to one based on self-acceptance, self-compassion, and self-esteem.
Most people have heard the advice to “love themselves,” but few can actually tell us how to love ourselves, and do so in a way that actually resonates with us as practical and realistic instead of heady and borderline narcissistic.
The audience will learn:
- Matthew’s “3 Layers of Confidence” model, and how core confidence holds the key to feeling differently about ourselves than we ever have before.
- A recipe for eliminating comparison with other people.
- A tried-and-tested model for self-love, developed over 18 years in Matthew’s renowned week-long Retreat program.
- How to change their inner monologue on a daily basis.
- Practical strategies for reaching one of the most difficult and final stages in healing: self-compassion.
This talk has been created from an 18-year process Matthew has taught to tens of thousands of people. The process was crafted to instill critical lessons of self-compassion on both a logical and an emotional level. As a result, this process has been lauded as uniquely effective in helping people finally connect to self-love in a way that makes sense to them.
Visit this page to view a snippet of this talk on the Drew Barrymore Show.
What people are saying
“Matthew is a genius whose magic needs to be shared with the world. His incredible understanding of love and relationships make him the absolute best love guru! This book is a necessary tool for anyone looking for love.”
Eva Longoria | Actress, Producer
“I was BLOWN away by the insights I gained. This was one of the MOST information-packed interviews I have EVER done. My conversation [with Matthew] was riveting. You'll be looking at your relationship with fresh eyes, or if you are single you'll be walking away knowing exactly how to get started dating.”
Ed Mylett | Legendary Entrepreneur, Business Leader & Peak Performance Expert
“I watch your videos every week and learn so much as a man. You are a powerful voice in the world. You give people strategies and tools to help them gain confidence and love themselves first so they can attract the partner they want.”
Lewis Howes | New York Times Bestselling Author, Lifestyle Entrepreneur & High Performance Business Coach
“Saying he's changing millions of women’s lives and relationships is certainly putting it mildly. This man drops knowledge love bombs."
Lisa Bilyeu | Co-Founder and President of Impact Theory & Host of “Women of Impact”
“When you have someone who is a dating guru, an expert, a guy that knows everything that needs to be known about how to find the perfect partner then you just want to spend a lot of time with them.”
Ryan Seacrest | Radio Personality
“Dating expert Matthew Hussey – I love this man. He knows about dating. He will give you 7 words to say to a man...and you will HAVE that man! He is no joke.”
Tyra Banks | Supermodel, Businesswoman & Producer
“Matthew is the world’s best dating and love expert. Thank you for giving us your wisdom. You’re just a guru at this.”
Rebel Wilson | Actress, Comedian & Producer
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